The Danger of Bitterness

Episode 27: The Dangers of Bitterness

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Thank you for joining us. I am Chris Jaeger and I am Ashton McGraw and we are with Illuminate the Truth a Christian Bookstore in Downtown Fargo ND.

Today’s episode is about Bitterness. Bitterness is one of those sins that often goes unnoticed—quietly growing beneath the surface of our hearts while we assume everything is fine. In Episode 27 of In the Light of Truth, Ashton and Chris dive into this sobering but deeply freeing topic: The Danger of Bitterness.

Quoting Erin Davis from Revive Our Hearts, “Bitterness is a sleeper sin. It grows beneath the surface, down deep in the soil of our hearts”.

Although it sneaks up on us Scripture warns us clearly that bitterness is not harmless. It is a dangerous spiritual poison.

“See to it that no one fails to obtain the grace of God; that no root of bitterness springs up and causes trouble, and by it many become defiled.”— Hebrews 12:15

Where Bitterness Begins

Bitterness doesn’t appear overnight. It often begins with something very real and painful—hurt, rejection, loss, injustice, or disappointment. In the episode, Ashton vulnerably shares her experience of rejection after working tirelessly toward an academic goal that didn’t materialize. Though she did “everything right,” the outcome was out of her control, and resentment quietly took root.

Chris also shares how prolonged hardship, loss, and the refining discipline of the Lord led her to a place of anger—not only toward circumstances, but ultimately toward God Himself. What began as grief and pain slowly turned into bitterness she didn’t even recognize at first.

The common thread? unbelief— unbelief in who God is, what He is doing, and whether His plans are truly good.

Why Bitterness Is So Dangerous

Bitterness never stays contained. Scripture tells us it defiles many. It damages relationships, isolates us from community, and creates a spiritual barrier that keeps us from fully experiencing God’s grace.

Throughout the episode, Ashton and Chris highlight how bitterness:

• Eats away at our soul

• Produces destructive fruit like anger, resentment, and pride

• Distorts how we see others and ourselves

• Creates distance between us and God

• Short-circuits the very healing God wants to bring

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Biblical examples reinforce just how serious this sin is—Cain’s bitterness toward Abel, Esau’s resentment over his birthright, and David’s confession in Psalm 73 when he realized his heart had grown bitter.

“When my heart was grieved and my spirit embittered, I was senseless and ignorant. I was a brute beast before you— Psalm 73:21–22

How Do We Uproot a Root of Bitterness?

The good news is this: bitterness does not have to define us. In this episode, Ashton and Chris walk through practical, Biblical steps to uproot bitterness before it destroys us.

1. Bring it into the light Bitterness thrives in secrecy. Ask the Lord to search your heart and reveal anything that isn’t from Him.

“Search me, O God, and know my heart. Test me and know my anxious thoughts. See if there is any offensive way in me and lead me in the way everlasting.— Psalm 139:23–24

2. Name the real source Bitterness is rarely the surface issue. It may stem from rejection, loss of control, unmet expectations, feeling unseen, or deep wounds from the past.

3. Choose forgiveness Forgiveness is not a feeling—it’s an act of obedience. Jesus speaks clearly about the seriousness of unforgiveness (Matthew 18:21–35). Forgiveness releases us from carrying a burden we were never meant to hold.

4. Replace lies with truth Bitterness often whispers lies: They got away with it. God failed me. I’ll always be hurt like this.God’s Word counters every one of those lies with truth—He sees, He is just, and He makes all things new.

5. Trust God’s sovereignty Rejection is often redirection. God’s “no” is not punishment—it is protection and purpose. As Ashton shares, what once felt like loss became an open door to something far better than she could have planned.

Better, Not Bitter

One of the most powerful takeaways from this episode comes from a simple but profound truth:

How we respond determines whether our pain makes us better or bitter.

The stories of Ruth, Naomi, Joseph, and the heroes of faith remind us that God is always at work—even when we don’t understand what He’s doing. Faith isn’t the absence of struggle; it’s choosing to trust God in the middle of it.

A Final Encouragement

If you recognize bitterness in your own heart, don’t be discouraged. Conviction is an invitation—an opportunity to experience freedom, healing, and grace. Bring it to the Lord. Confess it. Release it. Ask Him to replace it with His love.

Walking with God isn’t always easy, but it is always worth it.

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